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She wants to do nothing but lay in bed and sleep. Even if we manage to get her out of bed, she wants to go right back to bed. One track mind on it. Even if I just try to have her sit up in bed to eat, she refuses and lays back down.

外围体育投注How do I get her up to eat?

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外围体育投注We have ensure as well that she'll somewhat take. She's able to get around really well as well, so I'm worried about her deteriorating from being in bed all the time. Her mouth is fine, now sores, and I'm making sure she turns in bed as well.

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Posted by1 day ago

外围体育投注Am I? Erasing her?

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Posted by1 day ago

外围体育投注Hi all. My dad was diagnosed early onset around 7 years ago. He’s now in his early 60s and is unable to work/drive/etc. I’m home for a few months before I begin a grad program, and my mom works full time (8-5 M-F & 8-12 Sunday’s before Corona). I’m spending most of my day playing caregiver, to the extent of helping Dad get dressed, get meals, turn on the TV, run errands, etc. He complains often that he can’t do anything and is lonely; we’re in a difficult stage where he is aware of his condition and inability and apologizes and resents himself often.

My question is when I return to school in January, a few hours away, what changes we’ll make. My mom thrives at work and loves her community there. We are pretty sure my Dad cannot be home alone from 8-5, but we’re trying to decide if he can manage being at a day center for some of the day, or to what extent my mom needs to cut back her hours. Is there such a thing as someone who could ‘evaluate’ my dad’s capabilities at home? I know my emotions cloud my judgement of his abilities and it breaks my heart to see him struggle so I over-assist. When left for short periods of time, he believes he’s been alone for hours and is bored and lonely.

My mom and I are struggling with our next steps and would appreciate any insight. For context, we have plans in place for the future regarding home care & eventual hospice; a nursing home isn’t in the plans so this ‘middle’ period is really challenging.

Sorry for the long post! Turns out I needed to vent a bit too. Thanks for any/all advice.

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Posted by1 day ago

CONFLICTED. Easier. Harder. Grieving. Distancing. Loving. Apathetic. This part of the dementia journey is a study in contradictions.

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Posted by2 days ago

I’ve (M22) noticed considerable change in my Mother (F51) over the past couple years, Alzheimer’s runs in the family and it’s really starting to seem she’s in the early stages of it. I was wondering what some of the signs/ actions were that made you realize you’re loved one might have Alzheimer’s?

Edit: thank you to everyone thats commented! I appreciate all of you for giving me some perspective on this.

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Posted by2 days ago

外围体育投注My dad's memory has been on the decline for several years. His friend called me on Monday and dropped the bomb that he has been out of work for 6+ weeks, has been messing up little jobs that she gives him (small landscaping jobs - he was supposed to remove tree stumps but ripped out a customer's landscape lighting against their wishes!). Basically he has completely run out of money, but he won't tell me. It got so bad that his phone was turned off and there's a $600 bill to turn it back on, his electric was turned off for several days until his friend paid the bill, and his water was turned off. I think this issue is a combo of him not having money and him not remembering and not being able to work because of his bad memory.

外围体育投注He has extra vehicles and plots of land. He, however, will not actually sell anything. I think it's almost like a hoarding situation where he's attached and can't let go. Talking about his finances is an uphill battle and he will not share his information. He's so prideful and private, and honestly probably embarrassed that he is in this position. I'm not interested in shaming him, I just want to solve this problem.

Does anyone have any tips with how to even deal with this? I feel awful because my dad has helped me so much, I do not want him sitting at home without electricity and water! But he won't accept help. Do I force my help on him and just go through his stuff and find the account numbers and what not? This may be unethical. Or do I try to gently and slowly get him to let me help by talking to him about his feelings/what's going on?

外围体育投注Thanks in advance!

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Posted by2 days ago

外围体育投注My father was diagnosed last summer, and he is doing well at the moment. But I'm hoping to connect my parents with an actual person (social worker?) who can provide essentially an actionable checklist of what needs to be prepared (legally, around the home, future care options, etc.) and what my parents should expect and do in the coming months and years.

外围体育投注Does a resource like this exist? I am having a difficult time compiling a direct set of guidelines myself, and feel they won't take the initiative. Thanks for any help you can provide – glad to have this community.

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